Deciding to end your marriage can be hard enough on a married couple, but when children are involved, the challenges can be even greater. While you may prefer to never interact with your soon-to-be former spouse again, the reality after a divorce involving kids is that you will likely have some degree of affiliation with your ex moving forward.
Divorce can be extremely difficult for couples, particularly when one spouse has done something to hurt the other.
Statistics never tell the full story. The increase in divorce after 50, for example, is clearly reflected in national statistics. In simple terms, the divorce rate for people in that demographic group has doubled in the last twenty years.
For many couples who consider divorce, one of the first things on their minds is how it will impact their children. For decades, family therapists and a variety of other experts believed that divorce inevitably harmed children.
For some people, divorce is a bitter and gruesome battle, and ex-spouses never speak with each other again. That is the scene many people picture when they imagine divorce. The concept leaves a bitter taste in people's mouths, and it makes them reluctant to admit they are considering divorce.
The age old conversation on the relative merits of sons and daughters has been revived by Lisa Belkin, a writer for the Motherlode blog for The New York Times, and Anita E. Kelly, a Notre Dame psychology professor who writes on the Psychology Today website. The conversation is updated with new speculation on why parents of girls divorce more often than parents of boys.