Technological advancements have made things feasible now that seemed impossible before. At the touch of your fingertip, you can send a photo to a thousand people; you can tell everyone you know that you just got engaged and only have to tell the story once. Social media networks and text messaging can connect you to so many people in a matter of milliseconds, marriage therapists warn couples of the danger associated with that ability.
Marriage therapists caution that being able to contact another person quickly upon an impulse can lead you to do something you may not have done otherwise. One quick text message in front of your spouse can lead to a friendship and in some cases infidelity, a very common factor in divorce. Therapists acknowledge that it is not the technology that is doing the cheating, it is the person but the technology creates the opportunity.
Text messaging and social media networks can make the opportunity to strike up a new relationship or connect with an old flame even easier. When once you may have thought “what if the spouse answers the phone?,” you can now quietly text the individual’s cell phone. Taking those few moments to think about what you are doing may make you change your mind.
One tip is to share your password to your social media page with your partner. If they know your password, you would be more likely to think about whether or not you would want your partner to read what you are writing. If you have to think about it, it probably is a message or an action that crosses some marital boundary.
Source: NPR “Can Social Media Break Up A Marriage?” Jennifer Ludden 11/2/10