In a few recent posts, we talked about mistakes to avoid when you are working through the divorce process. In today’s post, the final in our three-part series, we will address three more pointers that can save you time and money when you are getting divorced.
We’ve already discussed giving the reins to your attorney, negotiating, keeping your emotions in control, and organizing your legal and financial information. Today we’ll look at sharing professionals, being concise in your communication and filtering yourself.
Should you share business professionals? During your marriage, you and your spouse likely worked together with the same professionals. You probably had in-depth and confidential discussions with your financial planner, estate planning attorney and doctors. Once you are divorced, however, it may not be a good idea to continue sharing those professionals. In some situations, you cannot use the same professionals unless a confidentiality agreement is signed by all parties.
Can you be concise in your communication? When you are going through an emotionally difficult time, you will likely need to vent. However, sending your soon-to-be ex-spouse angry emails or text messages is not a good idea. Emails, voicemails and text messages can be stored, and they may be used against you later.
Can you filter yourself? Before you vent to your friends about how horrible your marriage is or the unbelievable things your ex did, think about whether you’ll regret that discussion later. It may be healthier for everyone – you, your friends and your relationships – if you save your anger for a therapist who can talk you through the process.
Source: Huffington Post, “Ten Things That May Help Avoid Costly Divorce Mistakes,” Stacy D. Phillips, 1 May 2011